When I was in 9th grade I attended a queer afterschool center, which trained us to be peer sex educators to help combat STI transmission and unwanted pregnancy among 13- 21 year old's in my city. As a Black queer, non binary femme I understood we had limited access to safe sex education. Most of my peers were embarrassed and not interested. I remember being so excited to have the correct information to share and the condoms and lube they provided as well.

This experience activated my desire to teach folks to center safety, consent, and pleasure in their lives. 

Keeping that same energy in the clubs when I started stripping meant I shared safe sex information with my colleagues and club patrons. It was common place to see me reading an anatomy or sex ed book in between my sets and handing out condoms. I also had lots of time for hands on practice and exploration of my own ideas around pleasure. This is where I discovered kink and BDSM mostly for entertainment. Over my time in the clubs I noticed the inequitable access to unapologetic expressions of pleasure or desire for women. This was especially true for Black and queer folks.

Fast forward to my basement parties while I was a dance mom. I always made them heavy on the fun with a sprinkle of education. It became an oasis for my friends who were almost all parents. We all looked forward to exploring and connecting with games and conversation, while exchanging sex tips. It was here where it was first suggested I become a sex educator. I laughed it off until my daughter became a teenager and I had more time to myself to research what that meant.

In 2018, I started seriously teaching and facilitating sex and kink education spaces. I started with BIPOC queer community because that is my community. Almost everyone I held closest was Black or queer or both, so starting with my folks felt natural. After finding my stride, I began expanding my audience. Since then, I have taught at, hosted, organized, or facilitated over 100 educational, pleasure centered events for folks of all races, genders, and sexual orientations. These events include panels, mini conferences, kinky camping weekends, meditation circles, pleasure conversations, and play parties. 

In 2020, I became a certified Master Life Coach and enrolled as student of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education. Here my passion for mindfulness and pleasure were fed and I first received official coursework in  sexual somatics. I quickly realized the resources I created for my self healing, fell right in alignment with the resources provided in the training. As a survivor, embodying the curriculum helped me access and process deeper healing in my journey. Integrating these practices with my existing experience became the pillars of my practice.